This is why you're stuck in the same patterns month after month

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This is why you're stuck in the same patterns month after month

Are you stuck?

If you're stuck in the same cycles and patterns and can't seem to break free then keep on reading.

Because if this is you, I'm here to help you get unstuck... and it's not as hard as you might think.

In the video below I show you something fundamental to your recovery journey and honestly just your life in general. While I just scratch the surface of this topic, the concept is life-changing and in the video, I show you how you can start changing your life right now.


I used to believe I was broken and would never recover from my PTSD. What I show you in this video today is exactly how I was able to change that belief and propel myself to full recovery and beyond.

It's not your fault if you're struggling.

You can change. Just like I did. And it's not as hard as you might think.

Join me here to learn this fundamental concept.

No matter what people have told you before, you're not broken.

Lots of love,
Kayleen

Transcript

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In this video, I'm going to show you why you stay stuck in the same loops and cycles; and most importantly, how you can break free of them. So hey, everyone, my name is Kayleen. Welcome to this training video. I'm so excited to be here with you today because we are talking about one of my all time favorite topics to talk about  to teach about. There's a few reasons for that. But we today are talking about beliefs. Now, beliefs is one of my very, very favorite things to talk about--to teach--for a few different reasons.

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One, it's monumentally impactful in your life, just in general, PTSD or not. Beliefs are so important! The beliefs that you hold about the world around you, about yourself, dictate how your life unfolds, basically; dictates how you live your life. Number two is that it's so foundational to understand on the recovery journey. So when we talk about recovery, we talk about the pillars of recovery, right? We kind of call that the roadmap, a very broad overview of that is you need to master your mindset, you need to build unbreakable routines, and you need to fully process your past. Those are the three pillars that we talk about. You'll hear us teach about them.

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Beliefs are one of the things in the foundational pillar of mindset and it's one of the foundational things and it's so, so exciting because so much progress can be made. And it's a fairly simple concept, and it's a fairly simple thing to actually do. I call this basically like manual work, right, and so what you need to do is basically learn what needs to go on, and then go and manually do the process.

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So we're not going to get that far into it today. But we may;you never know where these videos take us. But we're going to talk about what beliefs are. We're going to talk about something called the belief cycle. Now, the belief cycle is really, really powerful. Make sure that you're paying attention at that part of the video because that's where you're going to start to see why you're spiraling; why you're stuck in these cycles. Quite literally this is a cycle, right--you see the word there, cycle--and you're gonna start to watch your life kind of play out almost on screen here, and and how that is so applicable to what's going on with you.

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And then most importantly, we're going to be talking about breaking free: how you can start to break free of this cycle. Okay, so really powerful things . Number one, what are beliefs? Now, I believe it's Tony Robbins and I believe he describes it--it may be verbatim--that beliefs are feelings of certainty you have about (again) yourself, the world around you. Feelings of certainty. So when you're saying "I believe X, Y and Z," you're saying, "I feel certain X, Y and Z." Okay, that's it. It's very, very basic sense. So beliefs are really powerful things, and I want to share just a few examples with you.

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Maybe you've heard me speak before. Maybe you listen to the overcoming PTSD podcast where Brad and I have talked about beliefs and different stories, and we share the story of Roger Bannister, which is the first minute--excuse me--the first man to break the four minute mile, and how he kind of set the precedent, right? He broke the four minute mile. And that had been said to be humanly impossible. They worked on it for 70 years trying to break this record. And if you don't know anything about running, that's something that kids in high school can now do. It is it is very basically a standard now. Used to be "humanly impossible," really cool. He broke that record. And then I believe it was less than three months later, someone in Australia broke it. And then by the next year, there were over 50 people who had broken that record.

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Why though, why that's important is because Roger Bannister did the impossible. Once the impossible is done, you know it's achievable. You know, for certain that it's achievable. That's going to come up again in the belief cycle, you're going to see why that makes sense; why that would happen. Why all of a sudden, when Roger Bannister broke that four minute mile, why all of a sudden people all over the world--runners all over the world, okay--then break that mile; and why now it's a you know, a standard for I believe it's middle distance runners. Okay. So really powerful, really important.

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dAnother great example. Maybe you've known someone like this in your life: twins, right? So there's a story about two twins, right; twins that come from a home where you know, their father is absent. He's an alcoholic, he does drugs, he ends up in jail. Bad situation for them, right? Now, they're twins. They're identical twins. They grow up in the same environment. They have the same nature, right? Nature versus nurture. They have the same kind of biochemistry for the most part, right? Twins. One twin grows up to be a father that is there. He's present. He never does drugs, never uses alcohol in his life. He has this awesome life. Great job, great family, right? What we consider probably very successful, very happy, right?

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And the other twin grows up and abuses drugs and alcohol, and ends up in prison and has this life, just like that of their father. Right. And so the story kind of goes when these twins were interviewed, they, you know, ask them, you know, how did you end up the way that you did? And they both gave the same answer, which is, you know, how could I be anything different with a father like I had, right? One grew up to be the exact opposite; one grew up to be the exact same. Really powerful, it's what they believe about that situation. Right? It's not the it's not the things that happen to us. It's the things... the way we interpret that; what we believe about that event, right?

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One twin said, Okay, I believe that this means I can be the exact opposite. One twin said, I believe that there is no hope for me; look at how he is. That's how I'll be. Right. So it's about the beliefs that we hold; the things that we think about the situations that happen to us. And one more kind of quick story, right? You ever heard of the placebo effect, maybe you've heard the placebo effect, I have a lot of great examples. And I don't have them in front of me, I'm actually away from where I typically am doing videos.

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I have a lot of great examples about the placebo effect, but I just want you to really reflect on it. I'm not going to go into anything deep. We can do deeper trainings if you reach out and you want more, we can do more. But you know, maybe you've heard of the placebo effect. And the very basic sense-they use this in all clinical trials, they use this in studies--is you know, I'm going to give one group, you know, this new drug, this new treatment, this new therapy; and I'm going to give another group a placebo. A placebo and basically what that is, is a mock. So I'm going to tell them that here is the drug that you're getting. And it's supposed to do X, Y and Z Just to see if it's the actual drug, or if it's people's beliefs, that changes anything about the outcome, right?

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So let's say an antidepressant. So I give group Aa an actual antidepressant. And I think, "Okay, I've created this antidepressant, and I'm going to give it to Group A, and this, these are the effects that they're supposed to feel. And I'm going to give group B a sugar pill, right, so they think they're getting the antidepressant, but they're not." Right. And so this trial is going to go on maybe for a couple weeks, couple months. And then I'm going to get the data back from them. And I'm going to say okay, how did Group A do compared to Group B? And now what can happen, and this is why they use placebo, what can happen is group A and group B can have the same effects, even though Group B got a sugar pill instead of an actual medication. And it's because of how powerful our beliefs are.

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Okay, this is built into the system, the trials that we use to get drugs from or any sort of medication from an idea and something in a laboratory, into the pharmacy or into your home or into that prescription pill bottle. It has to go through this process to make sure the drug is actually effective. And it's not just what you think it will do. I'll share one more quick story. And I don't have the details a;; straight because I didn't plan to share this story, the story doneat  an Ivy League school. And what it was is a... It was basically a example of the placebo effect in extreme.

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And so they split a group of students into two groups. One group, they said they were going to give a super stimulant, right, and they told them we're going to give you a super stimulant, supposed to make you feel excited and energetic and off the walls. That's what we're giving you. One group, they said we're going to give you a super tranquilizer, here's how it will make you feel; it's going to make you feel down, sad, unfocused, you're not going to get a lot done. Okay? And that's what they said. We're giving you the super stimulant. We're giving you the super tranquilizer. Now what they did is they switched--these were actual medications--they switched the pills.

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So the people they told they were giving the stimu;ant that would make them feel off the walls and energetic and happy they actually gave the suppressant, right, they actually gave the the actual drug that was supposed to make them feel foggy and tired. And then the people that they gave the suppressant--or they told they were going to give the suppressant--they gave the super stimulant, right and so that they said, Okay, here's how it's gonna make you feel. It's gonna make you feel sad, it's gonna make you feel, you know, less energetic, you're going to sleep a lot more. But instead they gave them the stimulant, the thing that was supposed to make them off the walls.

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The results, if you can imagine is that the number is escaping me... 50 to 60% of them, if memory serves--I believe it was even more--had the effect that they were told they should have. So for example, this group was told they would get a super stimulant, was told they'd be off the walls with energy. Okay, off the walls. They were given a super tranquilizer, an actual medication, and 50 to 60% of them actually felt energetic and off the walls, despite the super suppressant that they were given; despite the medication and what it was supposed to do them chemically. The other 40 to 60% said they felt no effect. No effect.

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So not only did that drug not do what it was supposed to do. The students reacted opposite. They reacted based on what they thought should happen to them when they took this drug. Okay, and the other people just did not have an effect. Super, super powerful. So I love that story. So beliefs are so powerful. Beliefs are so important.

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Now, I want to get into the belief cycle, because this is kind of the core here of what we want to talk about today. Now the belief cycle, like I said, is the cycle by which you live your life. So I'm going to start and we're going to build this as we go along. So we start at the top with thoughts and interpretations. Now, this is a really important thing. I start at the top here when I draw the cycle, because this is the part that you're actually in control of, this is the part where you can make change.

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So, this is the really powerful part. So thoughts and interpretations. Thoughts and interpretations, feed your beliefs. Your beliefs dictate your actions; and your actions determine your results. Okay, your results, feed your thoughts or interpretations. So follow me here. Thoughts or interpretations. Now, you, you... This is based on the results that you have. Right. And I will give examples in a second. So you have thoughts or interpretations about the experience that you had. So it will do results/experience. That feeds your beliefs, okay. Your beliefs dictate your actions, your actions give you more results or experiences.

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Okay, so follow me here. Let's use a PTSD example. Common one, common one: you have a thought that "I can't recover." Right, I can't recover from PTSD, it's impossible to recover. So that's your thought, we'll just start there for right now. Okay, that feeds your belief, "I'm broken." Now, I had these, this was one of the beliefs that I had at rock bottom. And many people also do have this belief of "I'm broken." So your your thought of, you know, "I can't recover from this" feeds your belief of "I'm broken." That belief dictates your actions.

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If you believe that you are broken, what actions are you going to take? What actions are you going to take if you believe that you're broken? If you believe that you cannot recover? Maybe it's inaction in this case. Or maybe the action is you don't do something, right? You don't get help. Right? You don't do you know, the work, maybe your therapist assigned, you don't show up to therapy, you don't reach out to a therapist, you don't, you know, do the work that needs to be done to recover, right? So... or you don't even seek to figure out what needs to be done. What could possibly be done, right?

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So your belief of "I'm broken" dictates your action, or in this case inaction, where you don't get help, or you don't do anything different. Inaction, right. That's going to give you some results or an experience. Now if you don't do anything about your PTSD, what happens? Now you know, this, I don't even need to tell you this, right? Your relationships get worse. Maybe you lash out. So let's let's just put some some negative things that happen, right? Relationships worsen. lashouts. Maybe you don't show up to work. Okay, maybe you don't sleep as well, right? Your sleep gets worse. Maybe you have more, more nightmares, whatever it is, right? Cuz you're not doing anything.

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Now. If you have, if your relationship gets worse, you have more lash outs, you you know, you don't go to work, maybe you get fired from your job, right? You're not sleeping as well. You're having more nightmares, whatever it is, right? You have more anxiety. That's your experience. What's that going to feed? That's going to feed your thoughts, right? So if you see all this, this is your experience. And you're saying, "Okay, so like my relationships are getting worse." Now think about this, this is what's happening in your brain, right? "My relationships are getting worse, I just lost my job, I have more anxiety than I've ever had, I really can't recover." Right? That's the thought you're having based on this experience. Based on this experience.

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So you're really reflecting this, this part here is kind of almost a little bit of a two way street, right? Because you're kind of reflecting on your experience, the results that you've gotten, and you're having more thoughts of, "I can't recover," or something similar. That's feeding the belief that you're broken. The belief that you're broken is going to continue to have you inact-not take any action--that's going to continue to get you negative results, negative experiences. And this cycle is going to go around and around and around.

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And now this isn't just a cycle that goes around and around. Something happens right here in this belief stage. I'm just going to make some room here. And what happens in this belief stage, we call this the belief scale. Okay, I'm gonna draw it down here. It's called the belief scale. I want you to think about like an old fashion scale, just like classic scale with a little plate on each side. And now we have a negative side. And we have a positive side; we'll put positive in blue. Okay, so we have a negative side and a positive side. Now this scale, classic scale just like the ones may be used in elementary school, you put a brick on one side, goes right to that side, that kind of scale. Okay?

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The belief scale. This happens right here. Each time you get once through this cycle and you get to this belief, you want to think of it like you're putting a piece of gold, you're putting a rock, you're putting a nugget, you're putting whatever it is, on the scale in either direction, in either direction. Now this can work, this cycle can work for you. And we'll talk about that in a second. So this belief of "I'm broken," right, now that's a negative belief.

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So what's going to happen is, each time you go down the scale, you're going to put a little piece of gold right there, right, you're going to put a little weight right there. And what happens is, when you put weight on that scale, what's going to happen, it's going to tip it's gonna tip to that side, once it tips to that side, what happens? Right, it's tipped to that side is going to lean to that side, right? So the cycle, each time we go through the cycle, you're going to get more and more on that side. Now, it's already tipped to that side. So it's easier, basically, and easier for it to go around and round and round and tip further and further to that side. Until that side is like so built up and so heavy, that that's the way that you live your life.

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That's why you're stuck in these cycles, because you truly believe this to the point where you don't even question it anymore. Where it's become an absolute certainty for you. I am broken, I used to have that when I was at rock bottom. This is where I was, right? I had spent all these years basically, I mean, you go through this cycle, sometimes hundreds of times a day, right. But you spent all these years, building up this belief that you're broken.

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And guess what? This can get so heavy, that it's you know, it's going to take a while to undo that belief. But it's it's going to be so heavy, that that's your that's, that's why this cycle can go basically faster and faster and faster. Because you put all this weight on this negative side, you've put all of it on the negative side. Now the good thing is, and I told you this right out the gate, is that you can do something about this. Okay, so up here, where I put this in blue: thoughts and interpretations. This is where you can change how you tip the scale.

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Okay, this is where you can change how you tip this scale. Because our thoughts and our interpretations are, fluid, we'll say, right? That means you control your thoughts and your interpretations. So I want to give you an example. So let's clear this up a little bit. And I'm going to give you an example, not a PTSD example. And then we'll go back to PTSD examples.

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So an example I love to use, I love to use, I play the guitar and I sing. And for those of you who have maybe ever played the guitar or ever sung in front of people, you might know that at first especially it can be absolutely terrifying. Okay. And it's scary. And so I'm going to actually start here with actions, right? So I take the action, that I play the guitar in front of people. So we'll just put some music notes here, right, I play the guitar in front of people. That's the action that I take. Okay, so I play the guitar, and then I have this experience. I have this experience. Now, I'm not in control of this experience. Not in control of this experience. I had this experience where people clap.

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Many of you, you're gonna be like, you're gonna resonate with this so hard. I know it, because this was absolutely 100% like 100% me. And this is really, really powerful. And I'm glad because, you know, when I do this training, this is where people resonate, and they say, "Okay, yep, I get it. I totally understand." Right, so people clap. Now. Now comes the thoughts or interpretations. So we're gonna stick with this word here, interpretations. Now. Everything else in the cycle, the beliefs, the belief scale that we had out here.

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That's based on this interpretation. People clap now, what's maybe your instinct, right? I play the guitar and I sing, I play like a nice cover song in front of people, and they clap. Let's say it's like my parents friends. Right? They clap. You might be thinking, "Okay, well, they clap; like, they they enjoyed you playing the guitar." Right. But is there another way to interpret that? So let's say I hear them clap. And I say, "Oh, my goodness, my parents friends, they just clapped because they want me to get out of here. They pitied me, they didn't actually like it, they just clapped to make me feel good about myself."

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Okay, two different ways, many different ways. But on our example, here are two different ways we can interpret this. We can interpret this as "They clap to pity me," or we can interpret this as "They clapped because they've really enjoyed it." So the choice that I make here is going to dictate everything else, and you're gonna see how this goes out and out.

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So the choice let's say, we go with a negative choice. So they clap to pity. They clap to pity me, right? If they, if I think... if I interpreted that experience, as "They clapped to pity me," what's that going to form? Or feed if it's already there, the belief that I'm no good, right? I'm not good. Or I'm, I'm not a good musician. I'm bad at my craft, whatever it is, right? I can't sing well. So, if that feeds that belief, what's going to happen? How is that going to change my actions? Right? If I believe that I'm not good at playing the guitar, am I gonna practice? Probably not, right? Maybe I will, right? Am I going to play in front of people again? Probably not. Right?

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So let's say I don't, I don't play in front of people again, I don't practice, right, because I believe I'm not good. I believe that people don't like what I have to offer. If I don't take action, and I don't practice, and I don't play in front of people again, what's my experience going to be? Now in this case, again, I'm not going to have an experience, I'm not gonna play in front of people. So I'm not going to get more feedback. That's it, right. So if I don't get more feedback, basically, I'm just going on that first experience. And I'm saying, like, "People, people don't like what I have to offer." And this is going to go down and down and down. And maybe I never pick up the guitar again, or never sing in front of people again. And that is, again, that's something that's going to spiral down and down and out further and further. And further, as I continue to go through this cycle, right, you're just going to go through this again, and again. And again.

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Now, let's take the other example of, "They clapped because they think I'm good. They think I'm good." Right. So they didn't clap to pity me, they actually like the music. Now, what's really important here more than this example, is the fact that you are choosing; you are choosing how you interpret this. So this is not just something we're choosing for an example. This is something that you can choose all the time, and this is how you're going to start to change the beliefs that you have.

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So let's take the positive of, "They like it." Right? They likeit.  Awesome. What belief is that gonna form or feed? I'm an excellent musician, right? I'm good. I'm good at playing the guitar. I'm good. That's awesome. What... if you believe that you're good, when actually you're going to take? You're going to practice a lot more, right? You're going to play a lot more music, that's awesome. You're gonna play in front of people again, that's great. If you do that, if you practice more, if you play in front of people again, what are you going to have? You're going to have an experience where people, maybe people clap again. Or maybe people give you a tip in a tip jar, right? You have that? Oh, man, they like it, okay, and this feeds, and it goes on and on and on, especially if you practice! You're gonna get better, it's gonna go on and on and on.

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And in regards to that belief scale, right, you're putting... each time, you're putting a piece on the positive side. And so it's going to feed it again and again, and again, further and further and further and basically faster and faster and faster. Okay, so it can work for you or against you. Again, the most important thing being, up here at the top, your thoughts or interpretations. So our twin study example: one twin interpreted their father's behavior as being inevitable. The other twin interpreted their father's behavior as being something they must avoid at all costs. How does that change the cycle? Right? They have this experience growing up father, right, they have this common experience. Okay, one twin thinks I can't. I cannot end up like him. Okay, feeds the belief, "I'm nothing like him."

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So they take actions where they don't drink, they don't do drugs, they have experiences where they have more wholesome experiences, they have healthier relationships. Okay, they have thoughts, now this is going to change, right? So they have thoughts that "I'm nothing like him." Okay, they have thoughts of, "I'm nothing like him." It feeds the belief that they are completely different, that they are healthy, they are whole, and they take different actions, right. So this goes again and again and again.

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Now we'll take the other twin, right, the other twin has that same experience, and they think, "I am the same as him." Right? And so that feeds the belief that this is inevitable, there's nothing I can do to change, you know, my upbringing;d to change the experiences that I had with him. So if the thought here is like, "What what else could I become? It's inevitable." And that feeds the belief, you know, "I'm exactly like him."

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What actions are they going to take? Right? They're gonna face hardship, they're gonna drink, they're gonna do drugs, they're gonna have experiences where maybe they end up in jail, maybe they end up in a situation where they you know, they feel like they need to steal, that's gonna create different thoughts, right? Different thoughts of like, "Oh, I am him. I am him. Look at look at how my life is turning out, look at these experiences. Okay, I am him." It's going to feed that belief again.

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It's going to feed different actions, you're going to take different actions, see how this is going on and on and on and on here. Okay, so I think we kind of see see the point here. And again, the whole point that I want to really drive home is that your thoughts and interpretations are what you can change. And so one thing I just want to mention, because it kind of came up here, is as you go through this cycle--now we have many beliefs, many beliefs, beliefs about everything, beliefs about what who makes the safest make of car; beliefs about, you know, what a relationship should look like; beliefs about ourself, right?

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"I'm broken." If you believe that you're broken, what kind of actions you're going to take? Beliefs about recovery. And that's what I want to bring this all back to: beliefs about recovery. We have beliefs about everything. Each time you go through this cycle, basically the thing that's staying stagnant, now you're going through this cycle, like a million of these cycles at a time, right? Because you have so many different beliefs. But for each belief, each belief has its own cycle. Each belief, this is the thing that's staying stagnant, these things are going to change, right, the thoughts are going to change, different thoughts can feed the same belief. Different actions can give you different experiences, to give you different thoughts, to feed the same belief.

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So this is what I want to focus on. And this is what I want you to actually start to identify. So the third point I wanted to talk about here is how to break free of this cycle. And that happens with the thoughts and interpretations. So I have a system, a process, a four-step process to actually change beliefs, and we're not going to get into the whole thing today. Okay, but I want to give you kind of an overview. Okay, because step one, is really important. And this is what I want you to focus on.

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Step one is identify. Okay, identify the beliefs that you hold. Specifically, in this video, I want you to identify the beliefs that you hold about recovery, because that needs to come first. Before anything else, you need to figure out what you believe about recovery. And you need to start to change those beliefs, okay? And you start to change those with these thoughts or these interpretations. Again, thoughts and interpretations. That's where it's at, we use the guitar player example. You want to basically figure out what you believe. If you believe that you're broken, you want to figure out why; this is the "why" to that. So this is the result. This is the why. This is why you believe that you're broken. Okay?

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So start to identify the beliefs that you have about recovery, then figure out why you believe those things. Why do you believe that you're broken? Maybe you had a therapist tell you that you're broken, and maybe you had family tell you that you're crazy. You know, maybe you had someone you know, write you up all your life in school and tell you that like this, this kid does not fit in, and this person is, is not like the rest of us, right? So you're going to have all of these experiences that that tell you, this is why we believe this, this is why.

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So you want to start to kind of identify first the belief, and then why. Why do I believe that? Why do I believe that? What makes me believe that? And then you do this manual work here. Your interpretations of these events, that's what forms your beliefs. That's what's going to strengthen them. And in our case, here, that's what's going to weaken them. You have an example. Let's, for example, say you had a therapist tell you or someone... someone tell you, you're broken.

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Okay, so that's your experience, right? So you believe that you're broken. So you say, "Okay, I'm going through, I'm identifying my beliefs, I believe that I'm broken." And you kind of go back to okay, what things tell me why? Why do I believe that? What things are telling me that this is true? And you go back and say, "Okay, well, I had this one clinician that, you know, I went in and I told them, you know, what was going on and they said, like, well, you are way too messed up to be helped." Right? And so they they said, you know, "You're broken, and this is going to be your life now." Okay? Really tough experience.

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Now, what we want to do here, what we want to do here is is reinterpret, reinterpret. So we've interpreted it once, maybe at face value, right? Maybe this person said, "Okay, you're broken, that's it. That's it for you." And we said, "Oh, okay, wow, okay, I am broken," right? And so that either fed or created the belief that I'm broken. But we want to reinterpret. So we've already interpreted it once; that's not working, okay? We want to reinterpret it.

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So, for this example here, the therapist tells you that you broken, what you want to look at is different angles. This is a human being, right? This is how you want to pick this apart. You want to okay, this is a human being, you know, yes, they were a therapist. Yes. They were in a white coat. Is it possible that human beings make mistakes? Is it possible? Is it possible you go to a doctor and you get misdiagnosed at something? Is it possible? I had that happen to a good friend this year.

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There's this... what was the movie? Holiday, I think, and this woman, basically, you know, she works at a department store, I believe, and they get a CT machine or something. And so they they give a CT tester and they say, Hey, you have this really rare thing that's happening to you. And you only have three to six months and she's like, well, well dang, I only have three to six months right? And she goes on this holiday. She goes on this vacation. She cashes in all our money and she goes I forget if it's a casino or whatever, and she eats at this restaurant she's always wanting to eat at, and all these different things right? Because she got this diagnosis.

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And then as the movie goes on, they do more CT scans and they find out the the machine is broken. The machine only gives one result which is this really really rare. bad result. Right? And so they go and they find her and they're like, "Actually, you're fine. Like it was just the machine that was that was broken; you're fine," right? Beliefs. Beliefs at work here. And it's all based on how you interpret it.

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Okay, so there are multiple ways to interpret one single thing here. So we want to reinterpret it. Is it possible that humans make mistakes? That's why I told that story, right? Is it possible that a machine is broken? Is it possible that a human being made a mistake first? Sure, it is, like I said, I had it happen to a good friend of mine this year, they had a similar experience as that movie where they were told, "Hey, this is basically how many months you have left." And they were like, "Oh, my goodness, let's get a second opinion, to figure out what we can do to--excuse me--figure out the best quality of life, the best care and these last six months here." Tthey went to another doctor, they said, "Hey, that's not the case, you actually have this, you're going to be fine." Okay?

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Humans make mistakes. Okay. And so that's what is what you maybe want to lean on. And you want to think about things like that. Now, the movie is, of course, a fiction example. But you know, think about things things like that happen, people make mistakes, we are human beings. That means we have tremendous error, right? So you might see this experience and say, "You know what, they told me I was broken. But that was, that was one person." That was--and you just want to take this one event that was one person--and people make mistakes.

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So is it possible that I'm not broken and that they made a mistake? And that they didn't know what they were talking about? Are there bad physicians, are the bad therapists, are the bad people that wear lab coats? For sure. And I don't mean bad, intrinsically. I mean, people that maybe don't do all the reading that they're supposed to in school, and maybe don't, you know, just don't do the things that they're supposed to do. Whether it's, you know, they they cheat to get through it, or they don't care at the level that other people do. They don't pay attention as much as other people do. People make mistakes, right?

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So you can interpret that as, "You know what, maybe she made a mistake. I only saw her once. I only saw her, you know, a handful of times, and maybe she just didn't fully understand the whole picture." Communication is something that fails us time and time again, right? Because the words that I use mean something to me, but they might mean something totally different to you, if you've ever been to another country, if you ever been to a different part of your country, you might see this happen, where you have different words to describe different things.

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Okay, and you can have miscommunication inthat way, when you're explaining your your ailment, whatever's going on with you to someone, you're explaining it in the words that make sense to you. The words that you use, might have different meaning to them. Okay, and I know I'm kind of doing some gymnastics here. But the point is that you take these experiences that you've had; you can't change the experiences you've had them. What you can change is your interpretation about the experiences, just like we did with the guitar example, just like we did with the twin example.

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You change your interpretation about those experiences. There's more than one way to interpret anything and everything. So you say, "You know what, that was one person. People make mistakes, people make mistakes." And then what I want you to do is also look for other things, right? So, so I'm getting a little ahead of myself, right? But so someone tells you you're broken, you say, "You know what, people make mistakes, it happens all the time. I'm not going to take that as scripture," right. And so if you're not taking that as scripture, what you can have is the thought of even even if it's this, maybe healing is possible, maybe--you don't even have to have a certainty yet. we'll get there--maybe healing is possible.

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And then what you're going to do is feed the belief that is opposite that: "I'm not broken. I'm not broken." So now you're feeding a positive belief. If you say, "You know what, maybe they were just... they're wacky, right? People lose their licenses, people make mistakes, we're all human beings. Maybe healing is possible. Let's forget what she said. Maybe healing's possible." You feed the belief, "I'm not broken." What is that going to do for you?

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Right, so in regards to our belief scale, what it's gonna do is it's going to take one of the pieces off the negative side and put it towards the positive side. So not only are you weakening the belief of unbroken, you're strengthening a new, positive belief. And then what's going to happen if you believe that you're not broken? Or if you believe that healing is possible? What actions are you going to take? Maybe you're going to reach for more help. Maybe you're going to see someone else, maybe you're going to, you know, follow our videos, follow our podcasts and see people that have healed, and start to take those actions.

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If you do that, what results or experiences are you going to have? Right, you're probably gonna feel a little bit better. If you feel a little bit better, that's awesome. You feel a little bit better. It's gonna be that's the easy part. Right? You say, "Okay, I feel a little bit better. Okay. I'm growing. I'm growing. I mean, you know, I'm not broken, that means healing is possible." Okay, and take different actions, you're gonna get different results. Again, and again and again. So that's how it can feed you; it can can feed you, or it can destroy you.

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Alright, so if you liked this video, make sure you hit subscribe. We'll do more videos on this topic. We just scratched the surface here today, but I really wanted to just give you an overview. I know it's a lot, but start to identify some of those beliefs, so that you can figure out why you believe those things and you can start to change them. You have the power to do that right now.

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